At last, someone’s talking about all this stuff. What a relief!
This book made the world of difference for me and my partner.
I became aware that many of the emotions I had been feeling since the birth were a common and normal part of becoming a parent.
My husband suggested Becoming Us, we both read it and I was amazed. We have better communication and more tools now.
My wife and I are in the thick of it and this book just put everything into perspective.
There’s heaps of useful stuff in here.
The book made the introduction of our third child a lot easier and allowed me to be more mindful of the changes in my wife.
I’m only a third of the way through the book and it’s helping me to really understand and communicate.
This book is more than an essential relationship guide for parents; it is a guide for life.An amazing, easy to read resource for couples moving into family mode, offering tips on dealing with in-laws, mother-daughter relationships, grief and loss, counselling for partners and ways to resolve issues. Expectations of new parents are explored and coping mechanisms explained. I would have loved to have read this book earlier in my life. Becoming Us is a great, informative read and a must-have for early parenting educators, prospective and new parents.
As a childbirth educator for over 20 years I have read hundreds of books aimed at new families, this is by far one of the best! It’s forever changed my way of thinking about families ‘to be’ and new families. What a treasure!
Full of practical wisdom lovingly crafted to support individuals as they prepare for the radical and wondrous shifts that parenthood brings. Becoming Us offers valuable insights to expectant couples everywhere.
An inspired path.
I thoroughly recommend this book as a `must have’ for the educator’s toolkit.
Becoming Us beautifully weaves together ancient wisdom and modern science about the art and craft of parenthood. This warm, inviting and supportive book addresses both parents, wherever they are in their journey. Eminently readable as well as wise for parents, educators, extended family members and child care professionals, this would be a superb gift to the expecting couple.
If you are looking for a gift for new parents, this book will be a resource for many years. As a birth worker, I gift my clients with a copy.
Thank you, Elly for writing a book that is real, that does not hide the truth under the covers, and gives families concrete actions to preserve their growing families and deepen their bonds.
The world needs this.
Elly takes care of one, of the other, of the couple, of the newborn and of the whole family. She shows how the self’s growing and the couple’s growing is side by side with pregnancy, labor and baby’s growing.Becoming Us is both a guide and a companion through the new parenting road. Elly shows how love and well-being can mature through diapers and tantrums and lead to a better ‘us’.
I sometimes worry that all the wonderful new scientific information about healthy development in childhood is triggering so much anxiety among parents, some in fact react by resisting the information altogether. As parent educators, we need to think beyond ‘informing’, we need to realize it is equally important to support parents, emotionally and practically. The manuals for good parenting need to be backed up by the capacity for good parenting - and that has everything to do with relationships.That is precisely what Elly Taylor has done. Becoming Us is all about taking care of the parents’ hearts, attentively and sensitively guiding them through the seismic changes that each new child brings to their relationship.Elly has taken this delicate moment of upheaval, a time when most relationship distresses arise, and has shown us that the challenges of parenting contain powerful opportunities for healing and growing the relationship between parents. Becoming Us is a thorough road map that helps us find the way through conflict, alienation and over-reactivity to a renewed and more open-hearted love. Our children are the ultimate beneficiaries.
Wonderful, worthy and needed.
Elly is a positive female advocate for dads.
A game-changer for parents and professionals
Becoming Us speaks to me on a core level.