In Fort Lauderdale for the DONA Conference, 2018

In Fort Lauderdale for the DONA Conference, 2018

Hi there, I'm Elly Taylor, founder of Becoming Us. I’d like to share something with you…

As a Relationship Counsellor and a new mother at the same time, I was surprised to discover that while people say the first year of marriage is hard, what they don't tell you is that the first year of parenthood is even harder.

I was counselling couple after couple who were struggling with the same issues as my husband and I: so in love before our baby’s birth and so in love with our baby wondering why the heck we weren’t more in love…with each other?!!

So I began researching.

And was shocked by what I found: a whopping 92% of parents report increased conflict with their partner in their first year of family and 67% a decline in relationship satisfaction in their first three. Relationship problems are one of the leading causes of anxiety or depression – suffered by 1 in 3 mothers and 1 in 5 dads - during the perinatal period.

Clearly, something has to change.

Because here’s the thing…what I have learned over the past 20 years or so, both personally and professionally, is that yes, parenthood is a turning point for a couple, but you know what, we can support parents to turn TO EACH OTHER . We can give couples the knowledge and skills to face the normal and common challenges of parenthood head on, hand-in-hand. Parents can grow closer through parenthood, instead of growing apart. Become a true team. Their new, stronger, deeper version of “us”. 

That’s my passion and our Becoming Us mission.

For more about Becoming Us and how we might be able to support you, please spend some time with us here. For more about me, please visit