Our Journey So Far…


It all started when…


The first edition of Becoming Us was published by Harper Collins in Australia and New Zealand. Elly became known as a relationship expert and started writing a column in Practical Parenting magazine.

In 2014, Elly presented Becoming Us at conferences in Australia, the USA and the UK and was inundated by helping professionals wanting to learn more about the approach.

We ran our first Becoming Us professional training online class in 2015. About half way through we had some technical problems (aren’t there always???) so one of our participants Kelly Evans, stepped in and rescued us. She’s still rescuing us today. Around 40 or so brave early adopters did 14 sessions of online training, culminating in a live video call for our “Village Elder closing ceremony”. They were each asked to choose an object that represented their Becoming Us training journey. One of our facilitators bowing with real set of deer antlers were the most memorable. (No deers were harmed, they shed them naturally).

In 2016, Barb Buckner Suarez, our very first Becoming Us Certified Facilitator started piloting our Becoming Us Before Baby class for expecting parents through Legacy Hospital in Portland, Oregon. Originally scheduled for one year, Barb’s classes proved so popular they ended up going for three, expanded into an After Baby Class for new parents - and a new private practice for Barb.

In mid 2016, Elly was diagnosed with breast cancer and spend six months in treatment. Despite this, we launched and ran our next class and another 40 or so facilitators…

In the two years that followed, as Elly and her family lost several close family members and all Elly’s energy went into just coping and supporting her family. Becoming Us was suffering until Jen Dudley stepped in…

Just as things were starting to pick up again in 2019, and we needed more help, Darren Mattock joined us perfect time…


Our Lessons and Challenges...


Expecting parents don’t know what they don’t know. Often they don’t realise what they don’t know until they’re in the thick of it and have less time and energy to manage things.

Beta test everything. Every time.

Couples thinking the Becoming Us classes were only for couples with troubled relationships when they’re for all parents who want a great beginning for their baby.

Our different world time zones meant that someone was having breakfast while someone else was staying up late for most of our meetings.


Some changes on the horizon…


We’re introducing a new Certification Step to give our Class Facilitators more support to market, fund and run their pilot classes.

Our team is expanding!

Barb Suarez has now become our very first Mentor for Class Facilitators. Working one on one with her is part of our new Certification process.

Jennifer Dudley has come on board to provide business and marketing advice and support for us and our Certified Class Facilitators.

Darren Mattock has joined us to manage our awesome online community of passionate and dedicated professionals.

Our trusty Kelly Evans continues to work tirelessly in the background to keep our training platform humming. We’re hoping to free up some of her tasks so she can put some of her other many talents to good use.


And some even bigger opportunities…


The Family Institute at Northwestern University in Chicago are conducting a Feasibility Study on our Becoming Us classes, with a full I.R.B. approved study planned to follow!

A collaboration with the Society for Pre and Post Natal Services in Zimbabwe is creating new educational opportunities for African professionals: Diploma in Systems and Developmental Family Therapy in Paternal, Maternal and Child Mental Health.