Hi there, I'm Elly Taylor, author and founder of Becoming Us. Can I share something very personal with you..?
As a Relationship Counsellor and a new mother at the same time, I was surprised to discover that while people will tell you that the first year of marriage is hard, what they don't say is that the first year of parenthood is even harder on your relationship. There are many joys and beautiful moments - but tougher times too.
So I began researching. And was shocked to discover a whopping 92% of parents report increased disagreements with their partner in their first year of family and 67% are less happy in their relationship. Relationship concerns are one of the leading causes of anxiety or depression in pregnancy and early parenthood – affecting as many as 1 in 3 mothers and 1 in 5 dads. This is true for same-sex couples too.
Clearly, we need to start preparing and resourcing parents for this challenge of parenthood. And I think I can help with this. Because if I’ve learned anything over the past 20 years or so, it’s this:
Partners can grow closer through parenthood, instead of growing apart.
Become a true team. A new, wider, stronger, deeper version of “us”.
Parenthood is a turning point for a couple. And they can turn to each other. Parents can have knowledge, skills and support for the normal and common challenges of parenthood so they can face them head on, hand-in-hand. This is why I wrote Becoming Us. Preparing and supporting parents for the grittier parts of parenthood - so they can enjoy the joys even more - is my passion and our Becoming Us mission.
I have been honoured to present the Becoming Us approach to parenthood at national and international conferences, serve on research advisory panels for Monash University, Newcastle University and the Australian Catholic University, contribute to the COPE website, and on the advisory board of the new International Forum for Wellbeing in Pregnancy. My favourite thing these days (family aside) is travelling and sharing the life-changing benefits of Becoming Us with parents and professionals all over the world.
I hope to meet you somewhere some day!