Hi there, I'm Elly Taylor, founder of Becoming Us. Can I share something with you..?
As a Relationship Counsellor and a new mother at the same time, I was surprised to discover that while people say the first year of marriage is hard, what they don't tell you is that the first year of parenthood is even harder.
Beautiful in many ways, but tough too.
So here I was, counselling couple after couple who were struggling with the same issues as my husband and I: so in love before our baby’s birth and so in love with our baby afterwards...so wondering why the heck weren’t we more in love…with each other too?!!
So I began researching.
And was shocked to discover a whopping 92% of parents report increased disagreements with their partner in their first year of family and 67% a decline in relationship satisfaction. Relationship concerns are one of the leading causes of anxiety or depression during the perinatal period – affecting as many as 1 in 3 mothers and 1 in 5 dads.
Clearly, some things have to change about the way we ‘do’ parenthood. And I think I can help with this. Because if I have learned anything over the past 20 years or so, it’s this:
Yes, parenthood IS a turning point for a couple, but you know what? We can support parents to turn TO each other. We can give them the knowledge and skills to face the normal and common challenges of parenthood head on, hand-in-hand.
Partners can grow closer through parenthood, instead of growing apart. Become a true team. Their new, stronger, deeper version of “us”. Thankfully, that’s what happened for my husband (yay and phew), and for the hundreds of couples I have worked with over the years.
Preparing and supporting parents for the gritty parts of parenthood - so they can enjoy the joys even more - is my passion and our Becoming Us mission.
Over the past few years I have been honoured to present the Becoming Us approach at national and international conferences, serve on research advisory panels for Monash University, Newcastle University and the Australian Catholic University, contribute to the COPE website, and be invited to the advisory board of the new International Forum for Wellbeing in Pregnancy. My favourite thing these days (family aside) is travelling and sharing the huge benefits of Becoming Us with parents and professionals all over the world.
I hope to meet you some day!
Elly Taylor, Perinatal Relationship Expert, Author and Founder of Becoming Us